Ready for it?
It’s simple, women desire that you to be the man.
Wow! That sounds easy right? You are already a man and she is already a woman so not much trouble with this one!
Then why is the dating world filled with angry, fed-up women and lost and confused men?
To answer this we need to go back to the beginning, well at least back a few years to the sixties. It all started during the time of “free love.” As the peace signs were flying and women were being liberated, our well-defined gender roles began shattering.
Of course, the freedom from the stereotypical chains that bound women was amazing; however, we are still experiencing some unforeseen negative impacts to male-female relationships.
Whenever there is a major shift in a society the pendulum swings all the way to the extreme opposite side it once was located.
Usually, there is major upheaval, changes, fear, and lots of confusion. However, eventually everything settles back down to an accepted place of “norm” somewhere in the middle.
The fact is that we have not quite made it to that middle place yet. Men and women are both confused about their gender roles and how to “date” one another.
The most common thing I hear from men who come to me for help with women is, “I don’t understand what women want!” While on the other hand the women tell me, “Why can’t he just act like a real man?”
Men would like to understand what women want from them and women are angry that men are not acting the way they desire them too!
Quite a paradoxical situation
To fix this, one of the first things I do when working with a man is to provide for him a clear understanding of how a woman thinks and feels. As the man begins to comprehend this new reality, a whole new world opens up for him. It is as if he has been let into the land of “Oz” where all of his unanswered questions are laid to rest.
Next, I guide him through how to deliver what a woman really wants from him. I cannot tell you how many times men have said to me, “That’s it? That is all I have to do?” in disbelief. The proof comes when they apply it with the woman they are dating and experience it for themselves. They come back with such excitement declaring, “It does work Bree!”
Even after working with men, women, and couples for over fifteen years I never get tired of hearing that!
If you are lost in the dating world and want the answers you can reach me here for relationship help.
Bree Maresca-Kramer, M.A. is a contributing blogger for JenningsWire, a blogging community created by Annie Jennings.