Something is not right, so you start to worry.
You have heard rumors of downsizing at your job. Worry sets in. A relationship folds, you worry that you will not find another partner. The doctor calls and asks you to stop by her office, worry and fear drive your blood pressure up.
There are a multitude of situations that could trigger worry, difficult things happen every day. That’s life. Challenges erupt whether we want them to happen or not, the mainstay for you when obstacles happen is to learn how to work worry.
Put worry to work
Worry is an unnecessary emotional energy drain. Dogs don’t worry. Fish don’t worry. Spiders don’t worry either. Even though any non-human species in the universe could have cause to worry about dying, being captured, or being eaten, none of these animals worry. They naturally go with the ebb and flow of life. Yet, most human beings worry incessantly.
“Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it doesn’t get you anywhere.” (from the movie Van Wilder)
Why worry? Why succumb to worry when other species don’t worry? Instead, work worry. Remain optimistic. Optimism and worry cannot co-exist. You choose which end of the emotional spectrum matters most to you, do you subtract from (worry) or add to (optimism) your life. One thing I know for sure, worry does not get you anywhere. Work your worry away.
Learn to live worry-free. Worry is like a free radical, so instantly activate an optimistic attitude.
Dr. Wayne Dyer, internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development, says, “Worry is useless. Because if it’s really true you don’t have any control, no power what so ever, why worry? After all: it’s out of your hands; it’s beyond your reach. Worrying then, won’t give you the control you desire, it will only make you feel worse. And then – if it’s not true and you do have (some) control or power, you need not to worry either: after all you have control over it! Instead of worrying, do what must be done.”
Do what you can do and free yourself. Release the trauma, forgo the drama. Let’s regress a bit. Think about something in the past that you worried about, something that tied your stomach in knots. Now, come back to the present and ask yourself, did what you worried about really matter now? That’s right; whatever it was is over and done with! There is no need to drag the guillotine of worry alongside you ready to chop off your neck every time worry erupts. That is complete, finished!
Next, let’s look at something you are worrying about which could occur next week, next month or even next year. You already know how silly that sound-worrying forward is ridiculous. Graduation, lack of money, downsizing, illness; whatever clouds your mental well-being is a useless energy drain.
Since it is not a present worry, you can change the outcome. Here is how:
- Affirm your power to change. Create a positive belief in your power and ability to master any situation, climb every obstacle. By consciously repeating positive affirmations and removing negative beliefs, you immediately boost your power to release or work through the worry.
- Plan for positive results. Worry should prompt change. If you worry about money, create a budget. Are you worrying about your health? Start a wellness plan. If you are worrying about a job, get busy refining your professional focus. Make the changes that restore your vitality. Be exact, take directed action steps to control your destiny.
- Practice constructive coping. Accentuate what is good in your life. Cope well by thinking about how good you are. Consider the character traits that dwell within you rather than scorn the person or situation. Cope constructively by analyzing what you can do and do that with integrity and sensible ability.
Life is about joy. Abandon worry, set aside your troubles and tip the scale of happiness in your favor. Do this every day, make it a habit to be happy. Cheer up, make worry work by putting on a happy face as you actively pursue your desired outcome.
Read more posts by Anita Jefferson, expert in communication. Anita is a JenningsWire blogger.